A few weeks ago, I got an email from a young man named Jeff, who I’d met several months before. When we first met, I was very impressed with this guy. Very successful, but more importantly, I could tell that he was a quality person. Over lunch I’d quickly discerned that he was living according to his values. He’s a strong Christian, a loving husband, a devoted father to his two kids who are one and three years old, a successful entrepreneur, and a man with many friends.
In the email, he asked me if we could set a time to do lunch together. I truly didn’t have any idea what he wanted to talk about. But I liked him the first time I met him, so I said sure.
It ended up that because of our schedules, we were only able to meet for coffee one afternoon at a Starbucks.
Jeff and I sat down and took about 20 minutes catching up on what was going on in our lives.
Then Jeff reached down and grabbed a legal pad. And he asked me this question, “Robert, what kind of person would you want to be introduced to in order to help you in your business?”
What a refreshing question!
I do several different things—speaking, coaching, consulting, etc. But currently, I’m developing a Webinar company to help people become better leaders and to have more impact with their lives. So I started describing the types of people who would be potential clients.
Jeff asked some good, probing questions to make sure he understood, and then told me about several organizations and specific people who thought would be good fits. He told me that he’d arrange the introductions…
And that was it!
What? What? He didn’t say, “Well, this is the type of people I do business with.” Or, “Robert, this is what you can do for me.” He was done talking business.
He put his pad away.
I sat there, probably with my mouth hanging wide open. In the world that we live in, there’s a lot of “What’s in it for me?” mentality. But not with Jeff.
At that point, I remembered a Bible verse that I love. Proverbs 11:25 says:
“A generous man will prosper. He who refreshes others will himself be refreshed.”
All I wanted to do was help this young man. Friends of mine had come mind that I wanted to introduce him to. (And I will! I already have plans for this.)
But here’s the point. He had no agenda—except for helping me. And that’s unusual. It’s also extraordinary!
I know I do things like this—sometimes. With absolutely no agenda at all except to help the person. But I realized now that I don’t do enough of it. Because of Jeff, I’ll make this more of a priority in my life.
How about you? Who could you help today with absolutely no strings attached?